So, it’s been a while since I last posted here. Rather than give a full update on my life, the purpose of this post is to express my views on various trans rights issues which have recently come up.

But first, some explanations and disclaimers. I am now a member of the Labour Party. Recently, a group of transgender Labour Party members launched the Labour Campaign for Trans Rights, which included 12 pledges. I am a member of this campaign, although I joined it after it launched. I have signed their pledges, but I was not involved in the drafting of them. The views that I will be expressing in this blog post are my own personal views, and should not necessarily be taken as a reflection of either official Labour Party policy, or of the views of the Labour Campaign for Trans Rights.

For those of you who are new here, I am a transwoman. Whilst I haven’t undergone any physical transition, I am now living my life 100% as a woman. My name is Sophie, and I use she/her pronouns. I live in Harrow, which is in north-west London.

And now for a few warnings: 1. This post will mainly be a brain dump from me, covering various issues around trans rights that have been on my mind. 2. Trans rights is a very broad area, and so I’m unlikely to cover all parts of it. 3. I am doing my best to try and not offend people, but, with such an emotive topic, this can be hard to do. 4. This blog post will largely focus on my experience and views as a transwoman – and, of course, I believe that transwomen are women. But, rest assured, I also firmly believe that transmen are men, and non-binary people are real and valid. That all transgender people need love and support, and have their own stories to tell. And 5. Those of you who know me well will know that I don’t do brevity. Strap in, this is going to be a long one…

Trying to stamp out hate crime is a priority for me, not least because I have been a victim of transphobic hate crime. Back in November, I was out hand delivering some letters on behalf of Labour as part of the election campaign. I was on my local High Street, and had just delivered the last letter for there, as I paused to get my bearings, and figure out where it was I needed to go next. As I did so, a man approached me, telling me to “move along”, telling me that I couldn’t stand where I was. His tone gradually became more aggressive, and, eventually, he said, “I’ll smash your face in, right here!”

It was at this point that I dialled 999 and spoke to the Police. I won’t go into all of the details of the Police response here. But what I will say is that this man has not yet been arrested, and I no longer feel safe going to this part of the High Street in the evenings, in case I run into this man again.

I didn’t have anything on me at the time to indicate that I was volunteering for the Labour Party at the time, so that’s not the reason I was targeted. I can only presume that I was targeted because of what I was wearing, and that this man didn’t want people to see him standing near a transwoman like me.

This was not the first time that I have been threatened, and it’s certainly not the worse kind of abuse that I have experienced.

A couple of years ago, on the same High Street, I had just popped out to buy some milk. A man approached me, grabbed my arm, and told me to turn around as he claimed it wasn’t safe for me there. I refused, and told him not to touch me. He became more aggressive towards me, and ended up repeatedly spitting in my face.

I got away, got home, and called the Police. They came round, and took a sample of the man’s saliva from my glasses. The man himself was arrested later that day. The Police had been called out to a shoplifting incident, and had been told where the suspect for that had gone. The Police approached him, and saw that he met the description that I had provided. As they went to speak to him, he started to spit at them as well – which they now had footage of on the highly visible body cameras that they were wearing.

The man was charged with “Assault by Beating”. Thankfully, he pled Guilty in court, where he was sentenced to 16 weeks in prison. I have not seen this man again, although I am concerned as to what may happen should our paths ever cross once more.

I do not feel safe. I am aware that, every time I go out, something like the two incidents I’ve described above may happen again, or even something worse. My friends have often encouraged me to move away from Harrow as it is increasingly becoming unsafe for me here. It will be a shame if I do have to move. I’ve lived in Harrow practically all of my life, and I am now the last member of my family still living in Harrow.

It is clear that more action needs to be taken to stamp out transphobic hate crime. Transgender people like myself have the right to go about their daily lives without the fear, or the threat, of being assaulted.

One thing I’ve advocated to help tackle the problem of hate crime is education. Children need to be taught about LBGT+ issues in schools. Hopefully, they will learn that abuse directed towards the LGBT+ community isn’t a joke, it’s a crime, which can result in people going to prison for their actions.

I have known that I was trans ever since I was a child, from when I was as young as 5. I didn’t know what to call it then, or what to do about it, but it was there.

When I was about 14 I once tried to come out. This would have been around 1995. Section 28 was in full force – this forbade schools from discussing LGBT+ issues. The friends I tried to come out to were less than supportive, to the point that I gave up trying to come out, and it would be another couple of decades before I felt ready to come out properly.

(Many, many years after my attempt to come out at school, and after I had come out as an adult, one of my friends from school from that time e-mailed me, and apologised for their behaviour towards me at the time, and acknowledged that they didn’t fully understand what I was going through.)

Last year I worked a six-month contract at the same school. Things there were now a lot different to what they had been when I had been there as a student. Section 28 was no more, and the school now has a Pride Youth Network, some of whom I spoke with.

However, not all of the students at the school were as accepting of me. There were some who deliberately referred to me as “sir”, and there was one incident where a student knocked on the door of my office, and when I turned round to look at the door, all I could see in the window of the door was the student’s middle finger sticking up at me.

Things have moved quite far in the right direction in schools, but I feel that there is still more that can be done.

Now, as an adult, whilst I am now living as my true self, it is still saddening to see that many people are not fully supportive of transgender people like myself. A lot of rhetoric that I have seen has been trying to demonise transwomen, and claim that we are a somehow a threat to cisgender women.

Some people have tried to frame the debate around trans issues as an either/or issue – you can either back the rights of the transgender community, or you can back the rights of women. But I strongly feel that it is wrong to frame the debate like this. It is not an either/or issue. An individual can support the rights of both the transgender community, and the rights of women.

Whilst I am a transwoman, I am also a feminist. I believe in equality for women. I believe in the right for women to be able to stand up and assert themselves. I believe that every woman and girl has the fundamental right to be able to live their lives without the fear of assault or abuse.

However, what I don’t support is where feminists cross the line into transphobia.

Let’s take the issue of toilets. There are significant numbers of women who are opposed to transwomen like me in using ladies toilets, claiming that they should only be for the use of cisgender women. Some claim that there are men who intend to claim to be transwomen in order to gain access to women’s spaces like toilets, and to then assault and abuse women in there. I have also seen a video where a woman was addressing a meeting, and claiming that “men” (transwomen) were going into the ladies toilets and having erections in there, getting a sexual thrill out of being somewhere where “they weren’t supposed to be”.

I find these assertions offensive. I am not aware of a single documented case of a man pretending to be a transwoman, in order to gain access to ladies toilets, and then assaulting women there. If a man wanted to assault a woman in a toilet, there is physically nothing to stop him from going into a ladies toilet to do so – he wouldn’t have to dress up as a woman first.

When I go into the ladies toilet, I am just going in there to use the facilities. I go in there, do what I have to do, wash my hands, don’t assault anyone, and leave.

And I have certainly not had any erections in the toilets. I do not find toilets to be sexually arousing places.

I would not feel comfortable about using the gents. As I have already outlined earlier on in this blog post, there have been cases where men have been abusive towards transwomen like myself, and I would not feel comfortable in using the gents in case I should happen to encounter such a man there. Away from the public view of the High Street, something worse than being spat on might happen to me there.

It is my view that it is transphobic to claim that transwomen are inherently a threat to cisgender women in toilets, and other single-sex spaces, especially where there is no evidence to support such a claim.

There have been claims that transwomen are threat to cisgender lesbian women, that they are trying to “erase lesbians”. People have claimed that there are transwomen who also claim to be lesbians, who have accused cisgender lesbians of being transphobic if they are not open to having a sexual relationship with them. I can’t go so far as to say that these claims are entirely false, but I have not personally seen any transwomen accuse cisgender lesbians of being transphobic for not wanting to sleep with them.

My views on this issue are as follows. Transwomen and women. If a transwoman is exclusively sexually attracted to women, then this means that they are a lesbian. Transwomen lesbians are real, and are valid.

If a cisgender woman states that she is a lesbian, but does not wish to enter into a relationship with a transwoman, even if for the sole reason that they are transgender, then that is fine. They are not transphobic for making such an assertion. Being a lesbian does not obligate someone to being open to having a relationship with everyone else who states that they are also a lesbian.

If (and I strongly stress the word “if” here) a transwoman lesbian tries to insist that a cisgender lesbian should be open to having a relationship with them, and that they are transphobic if they do not, then that is wrong. I am not aware of any transwomen who have done this, but, if they do, they are wrong to do so.

Personally, I don’t identify as a lesbian. I identify as pansexual, and am open to having a relationship with people of any gender identity. That said, I do have a preference for women. For me, finding a partner is hard. Heterosexual women tend not to want to be with me because I identify and present as female. Homosexual women tend not to want to be with me because I am still biologically male. I don’t get angry with anyone who chooses not to be in a relationship with me. I simply accept their feelings are valid, and accept that this is the reality that I have to live with. Dating when trans is hard…

I’ve not gone through any formal or official process regarding changing my gender identity. For me, the whole process seems very long and daunting. I therefore feel that changes to how this process works need to be made, and I am broadly in favour of self ID.

Many people who are against self ID have concerns that men might try to abuse the process in order to gain access to women only spaces. My belief (and, yes, I accept that this is only a belief) is that such cases would be extremely rare. However, I would accept a need for possible further checks where particularly sensitive single-sex areas are concerned.

For example, here is a hypothetical case. It is of a person who was assigned male at birth, and has lived their whole life so far as a man. They then commit a crime of a sexual nature against a woman, are convicted of that crime, and are sentenced to prison as a result. If, at this point, this person decides to now self ID as a woman, then this should not just be simply accepted. It shouldn’t necessarily be outright denied, but in a case like this further checks would be required, to ensure self ID isn’t being abused.

However, I would expect cases such as this to be rare. Where there is a legitimate cause for concern over self ID, further checks can be required. But they should only be for exceptional and genuinely suspicious cases, such as the hypothetical case that I have outlined here. The default position should not be that all people who identify as transwomen pose a threat to cisgender women.

One big issue that I have with the trans rights debating issue is where people try to demonise transwomen, using language which I would consider to be offensive.

Let’s consider the issue of transwomen athletes taking part in women’s sports. There is no easy answer to this one. On the one hand, transwomen should have some way in taking part in competitive sports. On the other hand, it has to be done in a way that is fair to all.

Personally, I can accept the argument that, no matter what level a transwoman’s testosterone levels go down to, and no matter how much of a physical transition a transwoman goes through, transwomen will always be biologically different to cisgender women. Whether or not this gives them an inherent advantage when it comes to sport is not part of the debate that I am going to come down on either side of in this blog post, but I would agree that more research by experts in this field would be useful here.

There is certainly a debate to be had on this issue. But the way that some people have approached this debate I consider to be wrong and hurtful.

Some people have described transwomen taking part in competitive sport as “cheaters”. I consider this to be offensive.

A transwoman who is meeting the rules set by their relevant sporting body is not “cheating”. A person is not a cheater if they are following the rules. Now, there may be people who disagree with those rules, and who may wish to campaign for those rules to be changed, but calling people who are following the rules that are currently in place “cheaters” is wrong.

It is unacceptable to lump all transwomen athletes in the same category as people like Lance Armstrong, people who actually did cheat, people who deliberately and maliciously broke rules to gain a competitive advantage.

When people approach this debate by referring to transwomen athletes as “cheaters”, my view is that this is demonising transwomen. It is offensive to transwomen, and it is not a helpful way to initiate a meaningful debate.

Transphobia, and transphobic attitudes, need to be stamped out. As I have already stated, trans rights should not be in opposition to women’s rights. There are now large numbers of women who are standing up and fighting for women’s rights. And that is a good thing.

However, one thing I firmly believe in, is that feminism should not be used as a shield for transphobia.

It doesn’t matter how much good work a person does to further women’s rights, it will never be enough for such a person to effectively be granted a licence to be transphobic.

Where a person is being transphobic, is demonising transwomen, is saying things about transwomen, and the transgender community, which are not true, and which are designed to stoke up unfounded fears against people who are transgender, then they should be condemned for such actions.

Transgender people are under real threat of abuse. Transgender people are still suffering in today’s society. Transgender people need help and support.

And transgender people also have the right to assert themselves, and to fight for their rights, so that we can be equal members in society.

And I hope to be able to play my small part in this with my involvement with the Labour Campaign for Trans Rights.

Now, I accept that the whole area that this blog post covers is a controversial one, with various people having many different views about what I have discussed here. There are debates to be had. And I am happy to have those debates. I am happy to listen to the viewpoints of others, where they come from a position of respect, and a desire to have a genuine, meaningful, constructive debate.

Should anyone wish to discuss any of the points that I have raised here with me, then I am happy to do so. You may contact me via Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me on SophieKGreen@gmx.co.uk. I am also open to meeting people face-to-face to discuss these issues (and especially with any members of the Harrow West Constituency Labour Party, or the Harrow East Constituency Labour Party).

I live in hope of a brighter future for the transgender community, and will be grateful for all that we can do to try and bring this about.